Working from home has some positive effects, like being able to roll out of bed 15 minutes before a meeting and still make it on time. It could also come with some negative effects like back pains because the ergonomics in your home office are not optimal. You heard a laptop tower stand could help solve that problem, but what about the other stuff? Though you may not have a choice right now on working from home, make the best out of your situation. Here are some easy ways you can make working from home work for you.

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Maria Leonard Olsen: “Radiate love”

As a part of my series about the “5 Things Anyone Can Do To Optimize Their Mental Wellness” I had the pleasure of interviewing Maria Leonard Olsen.

She is an attorney, author, radio talk show co-host and recovery mentor. Maria graduated from Boston College and the University of Virginia School of Law, served in the Clinton Administration’s Justice Department and on numerous charitable boards, and has fostered newborn babies awaiting adoption. Her latest book, 50 After 50: Reframing the Next Chapter of Your Life, which was selected for the National Press Club’s National Book Fair, has served as a vehicle to help people across the country heal from setbacks, reinvigorate their lives and become their best version. See https://www.MariaLeonardOlsen.com/and @fiftyafter50 for more information.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the backstory about what brought you to your specific career path?

At age 50, I got divorced, sober and became an empty-nester. I was living alone for the first time in my life. I had to change almost everything about my life. So I decided to try fifty new things to determine the contours of how I wanted to live my next chapter in life. The things I tried spanned physical challenges, adventure travel, spiritual endeavors, learning and teaching, and social activities. When I shared this plan with others, I discovered that I had hit a nerve, especially with people in midlife, a common time when people reassess their lives. I now share what I learned with others and help them overcome adversity and design their new chapters.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

My latest book was very self-revelatory. I wrote about my sobriety journey and other difficulties, like divorce and being sexually abused and assaulted, and how I healed from all of these things. I felt so exposed. But the first time I gave a presentation about it, people approached me in tears saying how I gave them courage to talk about their pain and secrets. That made it all worth it. If I can help even one person by turning my sorrow and experience into a force for good, I will have made the world better because I was here. And that is my goal in life.

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

On my way to speak at a large trade association’s convention in downtown Washington, D.C., to deliver a talk on self-care and mindfulness, I got a flat tire. I became so stressed that I was going to be late! I arrived in the nick of time, but very frazzled. All of my work experience went out the window until I recognized the irony of the situation. I am trying to teach people how to deal with life’s curveballs, and the universe was putting me to a true test. I went to the restroom and practiced meditation. The deep breathing brought my heart rate down and helped me re-center. I learned that my meditation practice will be a life-long, helpful endeavor in many situations, and that it need not be lengthy to be effective. I also learned to leave much earlier for speaking engagements.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

There were far fewer women in law school and in law firms when I started in the law. I am grateful to the women who paved the way for people like me to have good opportunities, and believe we all have the obligation to pay forward what we have been given. I mentor people who follow me along various paths. In fact, in my 12-step sobriety program, the 12th step is to help another alcoholic. By helping others, we provide service, but that service also helps us to maintain our own sobriety. It reinforces what we have learned and how far we have come. This can apply to multiple situations.

What advice would you suggest to your colleagues in your industry to thrive and avoid burnout?

Develop a meditation practice. I am grateful that meditation has gone mainstream. The benefits of meditation are widely known. We can re-wire our brains to develop more calmness and serenity. Sometimes, beginning with guided meditations are an easy way to start. There is so much online to assist us in starting or deepening our meditation practices. Walking meditations are an easy way to practice both physical and mental self-care, if we can focus on being present.

What advice would you give to other leaders about how to create a fantastic work culture?

Provide opportunities for your employees to continue to grow. No one enjoys or thrives while remaining static. Help those you lead to feel vital. Set a good example by continuing yourself to grow and by listening to those in your organizations. Each person has a perspective or lesson they can share. The person at the lowest rung of the corporate ladder may see something you have not considered before that may help your company. Diverse opinions help with more effective marketing, for example. Consider having open meetings for suggestions to be shared. Making those you lead feel valued can go a long way in employee retention and in creating a healthy work atmosphere.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. Mental health is often looked at in binary terms; those who are healthy and those who have mental illness. The truth, however, is that mental wellness is a huge spectrum. Even those who are “mentally healthy” can still improve their mental wellness. From your experience or research, what are five steps that each of us can take to improve or optimize our mental wellness. Can you please share a story or example for each.

Learn a new skill, Keep strengthening your brain. During Coronavirus 2020, many of us are learning how to use Zoom or other online platforms for meeting or keeping in touch. In fact, I am more in touch with my friends who live in other parts of the world because of Zoom. We set up weekly calls to check in with one another and share ideas and news. Social self-care can increase mental health. Having a strong social network increases connectedness, a vital part of mental health.

Take a class. There are so many free offerings online. Coursera and Class Central are a few examples of free or low cost classes. Perhaps you could even teach a class on Udemy or another platform. Keep those neurons firing, to stave off cognitive decline.

Practice positive psychology. I took a few positive psychology classes that helped me stave off panic in the early days of Covid-19. The classes helped me build tolerance for uncertainty and to reprogram my mind toward positivity. That which we dwell on becomes our reality. I emphasize the positive and look for the good in any situation. I write daily gratitude lists and cultivate an attitude of gratitude. Volunteer work for those less fortunate helped me realize how much I take for granted. I am grateful for the prosaic — like that I can see, hear, walk — to the profound — I have love in my life. We all can find things for which to be grateful. I also am an advocate of affirmations. I used to think saying affirmations to one’s self was silly, until I experienced the change in myself by practicing affirmations for thirty days. What we tell ourselves can become our truths. I am enough. I am content. These are my truths.

Develop a healthy inner dialogue and eradicate negative self-talk. Many of us are full of self-criticism, but we can change the tape. Treat yourself how you would treat someone you love. For years, I was full of self-hatred. It took me a long time to learn to accept myself as human and therefore perfectly imperfect. All my mistakes became lessons for me. I firmly believe now that every person and situation in one’s life can provide an opportunity to learn. I must be open to the lesson.

Learn how to be more mindful. Meditation can help tremendously with this. Meditation need not be long to be effective. A few deep, cleansing breaths can re-center us. Focusing on one’s breath can help you become more present. You are, at least for those moments, fully present, because you cannot simultaneously be fully focused on your breath while worrying about the future or fretting about the past. When you feel anxiety creeping in, increase the depth of your breaths. This can lower your blood pressure and heart rate. Pause and re-set. Try this when stuck in traffic or at a red light. I work in a busy litigation practice and maintain my focus and calm by taking deep breaths throughout the day.

Much of my expertise focuses on helping people to plan for after retirement. Retirement is a dramatic ‘life course transition’ that can impact one’s health. In addition to the ideas you mentioned earlier, are there things that one should do to optimize mental wellness after retirement? Please share a story or an example for each.

Keep growing. Seek to learn something new every day. The internet provides endless opportunities to learn. Check out TedTalks and free courses online. I learned how to fix my refrigerator myself by watching a YouTube video! You even can virtually visit world class museums online. Research shows that maintaining your cognitive health with new stimuli may slow memory loss and cognitive decline. Plus, it’s more fun and gives you more to share with others. I also enjoy planning trips. I recently realized that much of my enjoyment of travel comes from the planning of it, i.e., learning about what the place has to offer, finding the most interesting things to do while visiting, and feeling excited anticipating the experience. Many people I know are learning the riches our national parks have to offer. And there are incredible discounts for senior citizens for travel in our country, including admission into our national parks.

How about teens and pre teens. Are there any specific new ideas you would suggest for teens and pre teens to optimize their mental wellness?

Pay attention to your inner dialogue. When you hear that critical voice in your head, consider how you would treat your best friend or family member. Would you speak to him or her like that? Practice self-compassion. Put that bat you use against yourself away. And allow yourself to have more fun. It will help you deal better with stress. Do not be in such a hurry to “grow up.” Maintaining a child-like wonder with the world is a good thing! Unfortunately, most of us allow the judgment of society and jadedness to lessen that wonder within us. Wonder is a gift. Savor it.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

“Man’s Search for Meaning,” by Viktor Frankl. Frankl was a prisoner in a concentration camp. The takeaway of that book for me was that everything can be taken from you but the right to choose one’s attitude in a given situation. So powerful. I have learned to practice the pause between stimulus and response and to choose how I want to respond, instead of reacting right away. It has changed my life, especially with challenging people and situations. There was a period when my son tested my patience over and over. I learned how to count to ten and to listen more before responding. It vastly improved our relationship.

You are a person of great influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

Radiate love. If we all could practice compassion for ourselves and others, the world would be such a better place. Start where you are, and your light can have a ripple effect. Stop criticizing and seek to understand. Everyone has difficulty in life. Let’s stop the vitriol. The Covid epidemic is giving us all an opportunity to re-set and determine what really matters in life.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt’s wise words are a life lesson I wish I had understood earlier. I think one of the benefits of aging is caring less about what others think. I got a motorcycle at age 50, which seemed out of character for me. I received disapproving looks and criticism, but I learned not to take that personally. Really, the only one who has to approve of me is me! Dropping the rock of judgment was so freeing to me, though it is something I will continually work on because it is a hard habit to break.

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Thank you for these fantastic insights. We wish you only continued success in your great work!

— Published onSeptember 1, 2020

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“Surround yourself with people that will help you become the best version of you!” With Dr. William Seeds & Maria Leonard Olsen

As a part of my series about “5 Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Dramatically Improve One’s Wellbeing”, I had the pleasure of interviewing Maria Leonard Olsen.

Maria Leonard Olsen is an attorney, author, radio talk show co-host and recovery mentor. Maria graduated from Boston College and the University of Virginia School of Law, served in the Clinton Administration’s Justice Department and on numerous charitable boards, and has fostered newborn babies awaiting adoption. Her latest book, 50 After 50: Reframing the Next Chapter of Your Life, which was selected for the National Press Club’s National Book Fair, has served as a vehicle to help people across the country heal from setbacks, reinvigorate their lives and become their best version.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you share with us the story about how you first got involved in fitness and wellness?

At age 50, I got sober and divorced, became an empty nester and was living alone for the first time in my life. I felt rudderless. I had to change just about everything in my life. And without the crutch of alcohol, I had to find healthier ways to deal with my emotions. I had used alcohol to numb out my feelings and self-loathing. After getting sober, I incorporated many new wellness methodologies into my life and enjoy helping others find a better way of living.

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you started your career?

I felt that I had lost so much in my life after drinking my way out of a 25-year marriage. So I sold many of my belongings, put the rest in storage, and traveled to the other side of the world to volunteer at a school high in the Himalayas. I wanted to make the world a better place somehow. It turned out to be an exercise in cultivating gratitude for me. The Nepalese villagers had so little — no running water or electricity, for instance — but were the happiest people I had ever met. I returned with an attitude of gratitude infusing my life. I no longer take so much for granted. Just by virtue of living in this country, we know we will have access to clean water and will likely eat a meal today. In this remote village, that was not a guarantee.

Can you share a story with us about the most humorous mistake you made when you were first starting? What lesson or take-away did you learn from that?

When I started this chapter of my life, I set out to try 50 new things to discern how I would like to live my newly sober, single, empty-nester life. I wanted to stretch my comfort zone. I signed up for an open mic night, though I have a terrible singing voice. I got on stage and belted out a song and was awful! I left the stage to wan, polite applause. I never have to do that again! But I proved to myself that I could push through and survive uncomfortable situations and feelings. It gave me confidence to tolerate discomfort.

Can you share with our readers a bit about why you are an authority in the fitness and wellness field? In your opinion, what is your unique contribution to the world of wellness?

I sponsor many women who are newly sober and mentor women who have been sexually assaulted. One in four women will have been sexually assaulted in their lifetimes and do not often feel they can talk about it. I also help women heal from divorce, depression and other life difficulties. I use my experience and pain as a way to help others. I have tried many different healing modalities and help others find the right combination that would work for them. At my speaking events, people often approach me in tears saying I told their story or that they no longer feel so alone in what happened to them. I help them find courage to allow others to bear witness to their pain. Not processing trauma is like holding a beach ball under water. It pops up in unanticipated ways, if you just keep pushing it down and do not deal with it. I tried that for many years. It didn’t work.

None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?

My sobriety sponsor, Sandy, helped save me from myself. She said she would love me until I could love myself. She is one of the most generous, kind people I have known. She accepts me where I am and loves me unconditionally. In our 12-step sobriety program, we must admit to another person the exact nature of our wrongs. I told her things I never before had shared. She listened with understanding and without judgment. I was able to heal from a lifetime of secrets. I now pay it forward to other women, as part of my 12 steps of recovery.

Ok thank you for all that. Now let’s move to the main focus of our interview. We all know that it’s important to eat more vegetables, eat less sugar, exercise more, and get better sleep etc. But while we know it intellectually, it’s often difficult to put it into practice and make it a part of our daily habits. In your opinion what are the 3 main blockages that prevent us from taking the information that we all know, and integrating it into our lives?

I believe that it is a lack in self-love. If we truly loved ourselves, we would practice more self-care. We abuse our bodies because, at some level, we do not believe we deserve better. If we take the time to examine the roots of our lack of self-love, we may be able to remedy this situation. With self-love would come a re-prioritization of what really matters. A perceived lack of time to take care of ourselves would disappear as well. Does it matter if you make millions of dollars if you lose your health? Many of us speed through life in pursuit of material or other things that do not really matter in the long run. It is helpful to ask yourself what you might regret if you happened to die tomorrow. The answer likely would not be that you did not work more or make more money.

Can you please share your “5 Non-Intuitive Lifestyle Tweaks That Will Dramatically Improve One’s Wellbeing”? (Please share a story or an example for each, and feel free to share ideas for mental, emotional and physical health.)

First, in this society, we generally are more careful about how we spend our money than how we spend our time. Yet, time is the one thing we cannot buy or manufacture, and it is of uncertain duration. I now am much more intentional about how I spend my time. I am a recovering people-pleaser. Now, however, when someone asks me if I want to do something, I practice the pause and ask myself if it is something I really want to do, or if I would just be doing it to please someone else. And if I conclude that it is not something that helps me in any way, I reply that I have another commitment. The other person does not need to know that the commitment may simply be to myself, to replenish my energy.

Second, I surround myself with people who help me become my best version. I am a proponent of positive psychology and do my best to avoid “energy vampires.” The more I am around negative people, the more my positive energy dissipates. Even if the negative people are family members, there are ways to protect our own energy and limit our time around such people. Sometimes, excusing one’s self from a room to practice deep breathing can reset and create an effective psychic boundary. It can, at least, disrupt a negative conversation.

The third is not taking things personally. We all have our own realities and bring an amalgam of our own experiences to any given situation. I practice self-compassion and compassion for others by not assuming that their poor behavior has anything to do with me. I used to misinterpret someone’s disapproving look as a failing on my part, for example. Now, I recognize that it may be a reflection of something going on with them. I ask myself if my thoughts have evidence of truth or is it a faulty assumption. And I let so much more go. We all can drop rocks of judgment and focus on self-approval rather than what others think of us. It is impossible to control what others think, and I used to exhaust myself trying to do so.

Being mindful is something I strive for each day. I used to pride myself on my talent for multi-tasking. What that led to was an inability for me to be fully present. I did not savor good experiences. I endlessly planned ahead or “future-tripped” about what might happen. Now I work on staying present in everything that I do. It has helped with my memory, concentration and joy in simple pleasures.

Mediation is part of my endeavor to be more present and mindful. Mediation can take many forms. It can be as simple as taking one deep cleansing breath at a traffic light. It can be slowly walking from my car to my office door. Meditation centers me and allows me to better deal with whatever curveballs life throws my way. Sometimes, in my busy litigation practice, someone will look at me in wonder at how I am remaining calm in a storm of activity and near panic over a project deadline. I am much more effective and productive when centered, and meditation helps me accomplish this state.

All five of these things have enabled me to move beyond and thrive following my divorce, getting sober, being sexually assaulted, and other life challenges and difficulties. These changes have profound impacts on my life. I wrote about them in my latest book, 50 After 50: Reframing the Next Chapter of Your Life, and speak about them in seminars, book talks and self-care presentations.

As an expert, this might be obvious to you, but I think it would be instructive to articulate this for the public. Aside from weight loss, what are 3 benefits of daily exercise? Can you explain?

Exercise helps relieve anxiety and stress, of which there is far too much in our frenetic society. It is an important tool for maintaining physical, mental and emotional health. Exercise helps dissipate the stress hormone, cortisol. It has helped me lower my genetic high blood pressure. I exercise with a friend, which also helps my social well-being and helps to keep me motivated.

For someone who is looking to add exercise to their daily routine, which 3 exercises would you recommend that are absolutely critical?

Walking. There is so much beauty in our world that we cannot experience in a car or rushing around. Walk mindfully. Sometimes, make it a walking meditation. Appreciate all the beauty that surrounds you. Second, some core strengthening work to support one’s back and spine. There is so much free Pilates online nowadays. I would add yoga or another kind of stretching that incorporates breathwork. This will keep blood pressure down, relieve stress and keep you flexible, which is especially important as we age.

In my experience, many people begin an exercise regimen but stop because they get too sore afterwards. What ideas would you recommend to someone who plays sports or does heavy exercise to shorten the recovery time, and to prevent short term or long term injury?

Stretching and listening to one’s body. Alternate heavy exercise days with recovery days where you do yoga or simple stretching. Do self-massage or get massages, if you can. Make sure you are getting proper nutrients in your diet and are hydrating properly.

There are so many different diets today. Can you share what kind of diet you follow? Which diet do you recommend to most of your clients?

I eat everything in moderation. Food is a great joy in life for me, especially when able to share it with others.

Is there a particular book that made a significant impact on you? Can you share a story?

The Four Agreements, by Toltec shaman, don Miguel Ruiz. One of the agreements is not to take anything personally. That agreement with myself has fundamentally changed my life. We are all on our own journeys with our own experiences. When someone cuts me off on the road, for example, it likely has nothing to do with me; that person may be in a hurry because he or she just received some horrible news. I have gained much peace by following the lessons in this book.

You are a person of enormous influence. If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. 🙂

I suppose it would be an acceptance movement. There is so much hate being strewn about lately. Why can’t we all accept ourselves and each other as human beings. We are, I believe, spiritual beings having a human experience. Let’s love each other more and dispel the unnecessary hate that has infiltrated our culture.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Do you have a story about how that was relevant in your life?

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,” by Eleanor Roosevelt. I spent much of my life giving away my power. We are all people who are perfectly imperfect. I am enough. But it took me years to accept myself for who I am. I felt an inordinate amount of shame and allowed others’ disapproval to make me feel less than. For instance, someone I know expressed shock that I now have a motorcycle. I initially felt a pang of shame when receiving that criticism. I took a deep breath and reclaimed my power. I do not need others’ approval. I need my self-approval.

We are very blessed that some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them 🙂

Oprah Winfrey. She also was sexually assaulted as a child and came from a less than ideal childhood. She is one of my heroes in that she brings so much goodness into the world and has used her pain as a force for good. It is a dream of mine to meet her and to be on her Super Soul Sunday show (or another of her wonderful productions)!

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

https://www.instagram.com/fiftyafter50/

https:www.MariaLeonardOlsen.com

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“Radiate love. If we all could practice compassion for ourselves and others, the world would be such a better place. Start where you are, and your light can have a ripple effect. Stop criticizing and seek to understand. Everyone has difficulty in life. Let’s stop the vitriol. The Covid epidemic is giving us all an opportunity to re-set and determine what really matters in life.” https://medium.com/authority-magazine/author-maria-leonard-olsen-5-things-anyone-can-do-to-optimize-their-mental-wellness-bac2fe6275b9

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COMMUNITY//August 12, 2020

A Coronavirus Re-Set

The pandemic of 2020 has brought great suffering into the world. It also has provided us the opportunity to re-calibrate our lives. It has forced all of us to slow down, reprioritize, adjust and correct our courses. I feel mildly guilty that the Coronavirus pandemic and the attendant shutdowns and quarantining changed some things […]

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• Maria Leonard Olsen, Maria Leonard Olsen is a Washington, D.C.-based attorney and author of “50 After 50: Reframing the Next Chapter of Your Life” (Rowman & Littlefield, June 2018).

The pandemic of 2020 has brought great suffering into the world. It also has provided us the opportunity to re-calibrate our lives. It has forced all of us to slow down, reprioritize, adjust and correct our courses.

I feel mildly guilty that the Coronavirus pandemic and the attendant shutdowns and quarantining changed some things for the better for me. I had more time to exercise. A friend and I decided to exercise together every day on Zoom. There are so many good, free online exercise videos today, of all types. We mix it up with yoga, barre, Pilates, tae bo and more. Had my friend not been waiting for me online each morning, I know I would have stayed in bed longer for most of them. Just before this regimen began, I was staying in bed until late morning, tossing, turning and worrying.

My exercise buddy and I agreed each morning to check in with how we were feeling, and to share our gratitude lists and a few affirmations. This daily appointment staved off my sense of isolation.

Cultivating an attitude of gratitude to start my day filled my reserves for whatever challenging came my way. And there is always something for which to feel grateful. The fact that I can see, hear or use any of my senses is cause for gratitude. I give thanks that my body is working. My adult children are safe in their respective cities of choice. My daily gratitude lists include both the profound and the mundane.

I used to think affirmations were silly. But if I say positive things about myself enough times, it starts to stick in my psyche. More often than not, my affirmations include, “I am enough,” “I am content,” “I approve of myself,” or some variation of those sentiments. Because of our brain’s neuroplasticity, we can strengthen new neural pathways by feeding our brains repetitive thoughts. I choose now to feed my mind with as much positivity as possible. And when negative thoughts invaded my mind, I would silently sing, “Hit the road, Jack….”

I signed up for an online positive psychology class. The class taught me some helpful new resiliency skills. I learned self-soothing practices, like havening. I listened to positive podcasts, TedTalks and free online self-improvement presentations. Happiness apps were less effective for me, but they may work for others.

I meditated more, especially via walking meditation. I took slow walks in wooded areas, paying more attention to nature’s beauty. I became mindful throughout my day, sometimes saying to myself, “I’m back,” when I realized I was not present and wanted to return to a state of awareness. Focusing on my breath keeps me more present. I used to pride myself on my multitasking ability. Now I realize it detracts from whatever I am doing because I am not allowing myself to be fully present.

I made more time to read for pleasure, and avoided dark books. Transporting myself to another land and becoming engrossed in a well-crafted story was therapeutic. I limited my time on broadcast news and any encounters with negative people. This is one type of necessary self-care for me.

I took time to learn some new skills. Learning how to use Zoom, Skype and Google’s meeting function helped me maintain contact with the outside world. I organized a weekly Zoom call with three of my closest friends who live on opposite coasts. I even learned how to do PowerPoint presentations that enhanced my online workshops.

I saved money by not going out or ordering out and resisting online shopping. With more money in the bank, I started to dream of future trips and searched online for new destinations to explore when travel becomes safe again.

I consciously savored anything good. If something tasted particularly yummy, I ate it slowly and tried fully to appreciate it. If something happened during the day that was positive or enjoyable, I slowed down and consciously thought about it. Sometimes, I journaled about it, so I could remember it more readily later. It is easy to dwell on negative things, yet I realized there is so much to appreciate and savor each day.

I forgave myself and let more things go. I stopped comparing myself to all those on social media who were organizing furiously and getting so much done. I changed my inner dialogue and tried to treat myself as someone dear to me, like I would treat my best friend, mom or child.

The cumulation of these healthy new practices lifted my spirit and enabled me to start a new, lighter chapter. I can say with certainty that 2020 provided me with growth opportunities, and allowed me to fill my spiritual bank to provide ballast from the storms of life. May we all emerge from this pandemic as better versions of ourselves, with stronger coping skills, acceptance and adaptability.

— Published on August 12, 2020

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Maria Leonard Olsen, Maria Leonard Olsen is a Washington, D.C.-based attorney and author of “50 After 50: Reframing the Next Chapter of Your Life” (Rowman & Littlefield, June 2018).

Maria Leonard Olsen graduated from Boston College and the University of Virginia School of Law. She is an attorney, radio talk show host of the Washington, D.C. show “Inside Out,” writing and women's empowerment retreat instructor, editor, and public speaker on diversity issues and living a life authentic to one's values. Her work has been published by The Washington Post, Washingtonian Magazine, Bethesda Magazine, among others. She also served in the Clinton Justice Department prior to having children, and recently returned to practicing law now that she is an empty-nester.

Olsen is the author of four books, including the children’s books Mommy, Why's Your Skin So Brown? and Healing for Hallie, and the non-fiction titles Not the Cleaver Family--The New Normal in Modern American Families and her newest book, 50 After 50: Reframing the Next Chapter of Your Life.

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Author Maria Olsen: “Midlife Happiness Is More Akin To Serenity”

Maria Olsen, 53, grew up brown in a sea of white and always felt different. She learned to please others and adapt herself to fit in, making sure everyone around her was content – everyone except her. For years she drowned her sorrows with alcohol, but at 50 came to a halt and decided it was time to radically change direction. Pursuing fifty life-changing quests that took her out of her comfort zone helped her find peace and happiness. Radio talk show co-host, women’s writing and empowerment coach, mentor, public speaker, author, recovery sponsor and attorney, Maria has more than one string to her bow and shows us that it’s never too late to improve, change and thrive.

Full article: https://www.crunchytales.com/author-maria-olsen-midlife-happiness-is-more-akin-to-serenity/

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